053: How to Conquer Fear in a Pandemic with Lisa’s 5 Fear Busters!

Hey everyone, it’s Lisa J. here and welcome to another edition of Build Your Belief Podcast and YouTube Show!

So, did you check out the ideas around the spiritual vaccine giveaway? Congratulations to eight of you who won—each of you won my $50 Gift Certificate for coming up with phenomenal inspiring spiritual vaccines like love, fun, humor, creativity, unity. Check out everyone’s ideas right there on my Facebook page: Lisa J. Coaching, that’s my business page and I posted everybody’s ideas and videos and pictures of them from around the world. So, congratulations to you and thank you for stepping up and creating some phenomenal and great ideas for the spiritual vaccine for COVID19.

This week, I felt it was truly important to talk about conquering your fear. Yes, there is so much fear and anxiety happening right now because of the unknown, we are in the middle of a pandemic, something we’ve never had to deal with before. There’s a lot of fear. And I’m going to give you five fear busters right now, straight from my Best-Selling book Conquer Fear! but if you want the full arson of my conquer fear ideas, my fear busters, I created a special email mini course just for you, and I’m launching it today at an “I CAN DO” promo rate. Yeah, whatever you can do, I want you to have this resource. This resource, the Conquer Fear Email Mini Course is going to help you learn the fear busters to conquer your fear, soften the anxiety, retrain your brain around fear and anxiety, and help you manage your emotions even better, and boy do we need that right now.

You guys, you know as much as much as I know that fear and anxiety lessens your immune system, it weakens it and we need to build up our immune system, we need to build up our energy on this planet, and that is by conquering our fear and moving into a greater depth of faith.

So, here’s my five fear busters for you.

Fear buster number one: Stop beating yourself up about your fear and anxiety, accept it. So… you have anxiety. So… you’re riddled with fear. I get it. You’re making it worse when you judge yourself or you think you’re the only one.

“Oh, why am I the only one who’s having these anxiety attacks, that I’m riddled with fear?”

Everyone’s having anxiety attacks, everyone’s riddled with fear, it’s just that we don’t have a culture that honors vulnerability, so no one’s telling you that you’re not the only one. Please stop beating yourself up and pour over great amounts of grace and understanding over yourself and others. Everyone is doing the very best we can.

So, step number one is my fear busters is accept it. When you stop judging and even self-loathing in your critical nature, judging yourself for your fear or anxiety attacks, you lessen their control over you, you lessen their power.

So please pour over self-love, become your own best friend though this.

Which leads us to fear buster number two.

What are your self-soothing habits? Yeah, when you were a little kid you learned because you have a human spirit, you learned how to self-sooth. When you were riddled with fear as a little girl or a little boy, you did something, as a little infant you sucked on things. That was brilliant, that was you learning how to self-sooth.

Now, as an adult, what can you do to self-sooth, take care of yourself? Maybe it’s go for a run, maybe it’s take a nap, sleep is a great healer. Maybe it’s take a hot bath, maybe it’s call a friend, maybe it’s be generous and write a thank you card or an appreciation note. Maybe it’s turn off the T.V. Maybe it’s study people in history who you admire.

Which leads us into fear buster number three.

Who do you admire? Who can you emulate? Who can you tap into in collective consciousness and say I want to be more like her, I want to be more like him.

For me, you guys, I think of Jane Austen, the brilliant author that had no voice, was told she had to get married to be valuable, and yet she wrote best-selling books that exist today that are big blockbuster movies, and she died before she even knew how successful her writing is. Jane Austen, amazing.

What about Anne Frank, who was in isolation for just over two years, not just isolation like you and I have to be in isolation, but having to be quiet, not speak, not make a sound, because if they heard her she would be captured and killed. Anne Frank, thank you for your gift, your example of courage.

What about the great poet, Maya Angelou? What about Mother Teresa and her kindness and love for the ugliest of situations, that she was there for people to, in her language, “die with honor.” That moves me to get to be the—she’s the angel of passing over, the angel of death, being with people in their hardest part of life, in their ugliest state. Because you know who she was wish as she helped them pass over and she was just this beautiful space of love for them.

What about Lady Diana? In her insecurity she would bring her beauty to hospitals with the patients dying from AIDS back in the 80s, which now that’s not a death sentence, but back then it was and she was not afraid. She brought her beauty and her insecurities and she served those.

What about Rosa Parks? Who sat on that bus and said no I will not move. I draw great strength from her and her courage and that she had a divine guidance that she wasn’t killed.

I think about Joan of Arc, talk about a divine guidance, she actually said that God spoke to her and told her what to do as she led her men in battle for the French Revolution, and I think she was only 17 years old when she took on that calling as a solider, as a general to lead her French army into battle. Wow.

I think of Mary Kay Ash, who I worked under for many years. Yes, I was a Mary Kay International Distributor and Director, and Mary Kay Ash would stand on that stage in front of 40,000 consultants and she said, “I pray for you every single morning, I pray for you.” Wow, to know that our leader was praying for us made a difference in our lives, not just within our business with Mary Kay, but also in how parented, how we treated others, how we were in marriage. I love Mary Kay Ash and her example. You know she died on Thanksgiving Day, what a special day.

I think about Esther, the Queen of Persia, who stood up to her husband—and do you know why Esther was that king’s wife? Because he had his first queen beheaded, because she did something that he didn’t like. Wow, and yet she, Queen Esther said, “I’ve been born for just a time as this.” And what she did was move the heart of her husband, the King of Persia, to save her people, the Jews, from annihilation. Wow, the courage, the strength of character, the trust in a higher power.

So, these are some of mine, who are yours?

So, fear buster number three is study women of courage, study men of valor, and ask in, what I would call the quantum field, for those attributes to be yours.

And then idea number four, can you emulate you? Yes, you can.

Think back when you were a little girl or a little boy and think when you had courage, you stood up to that bully, and maybe one thousand times you didn’t stand up to the bully, but one time you did. Call out that one time.

Remember when you were a little kid or maybe even a teenager and all your insecurities, I was so insecure as a teenager, but I remember one time feeling so empowered and independent and that was when I went to my grandma’s house, my grandma and my granddad and they liked to sleep in and I got up early, so they would put the cereal down where I could reach it and they had me feed myself. I had never done that before visiting them. I remember I was six, seven, eight, nine years old going to their house and making my own meals for the first time in my life. Now, that might sound silly to you, but I was like this weak little girl, that’s how I saw myself, incredibly insecure, incredibly just not capable, but my grandparents made me feel capable.

Even all those times of insecurity, what was the one time you stood up to a bully? Or you said no? Or you said yes? Or you were kind when everybody was rude. Even if it’s one time, fear buster number four is relish in that one memory of you tapping into your valor, your courage, and focus on that. Stop focusing on the times you were weak, or riddled with fear, or had multiple anxiety attacks, focus on the time, even if it’s that one time, that you were courageous, that you made a difference.

So, idea number five, fear buster number five, gosh, the most important one, is look at fear as a gift.

Fear is a gift.

Right now, we are being given a gift, because fear helps us cultivate faith. Fear helps us cultivate a need for a higher power, for each other, for meaning.

Bill Gates said that the coronavirus is the great corrector and I agree with that. Could it be that we are being given a gift right now with this fear and anxiety, that it is a great corrector for us to evaluate, where am I giving my power to other people, where do I care too much about what other people think about me? Where am I not standing up for myself? And where can I make that shift, that my priorities are aligned with my highest values, and I’m cultivating my faith and rekindling my relationship with God, my creator, my higher power? Admitting that I need people, I need you, and that beautiful access of vulnerability that now we’re given in this time of fear and uncertainty.

So, that’s idea number five: Look at this fear as a gift. It’s our opportunity to correct our values and what matters to us, and even re-correct our vision, our goals, and where we want to be and who we want to be one year from now when all of this is over and we’re back to a new normal, it’ll never be normal, and we don’t want it to be normal, we want the new normal.

User in, come on, we’re ready for you, the future you, the future me, our future world.

So, there are your five fear busters! Again, if you want the full collection of my fear busters, go check out the Lisa J. Coaching email mini course. You can have it for whatever price you can afford. I want you to have it, I don’t want money to stop you from getting this resource and share it with your friends and loved ones.

So, just click on the link below or go to www.go.lisajcoaching.com/conquerfear

Make it a beautiful week and we’ll see you next week on the Build Your Belief Show.

Thanks everyone!